You believe you’ve found an attractive partner, which is exciting, right? But wait, let’s pause for a moment. You’re just a few dates into this relationship, and already, you’re feeling some uncertainties you can’t quite identify. This is the perfect time to consult a comprehensive dating red flags checklist. It’s crucial to remember the old adage, “All that glitters is not gold.”
This checklist will help you discern whether these early doubts are warning signs of underlying issues that might hinder a healthy relationship. By being aware of these red flags early on, you can make more informed decisions about whether to continue pursuing this relationship or proceed cautiously.
Dating Red Flags: Run For The Hills If…
Dating Red Flags 1. He/She talks about the ex.
If you are on a date and the ex is spoken of fondly, he/ she is not over his or her ex. If your date speaks of the ex negatively, then he or she has no class. Either way, they are definitely not over their former partner. In both instances, your date lacks respect for you because it is your date. Worse still if…
Dating Red Flags 2. He or she tells you that their ex-partners are all crazy.
The chances are that their behaviour towards them drove them to act a little deranged and the person sitting opposite you is, in fact, addicted to high drama themselves.
Dating Red Flags 3. If he or she takes too long to respond.
Whether it is to your voicemail, text, email or any other form of communication, there are obviously going to be times when he or she will be unable to send an immediate response back to you but any longer than a day, with regularity, means that they have little interest in dating you seriously or that you are on hold until something better comes along and in the meantime, you will do as a booty call.
Dating Red Flags 4. Asking you out or confirming a pencilled-in date at the last minute.
Nothing better came along.
Dating Red Flags 5. Too full-on, too soon.
It is all too easy to get swept away by the adoration of a new hot admirer but deep, deep down inside, you know that something is amiss. Hop on board the crazy train and expect to crash and burn.
Dating Red Flags 6. Social Media Hijack
They have already requested you as friends on Facebook, Twitter and your Blackberry IM and you have not even got to the end of the first date.
Dating Red Flags 7. He or she turns hot and cold.
Then hot and cold, again. And so on. Baby, they just aren’t into you.
8. Jekyll & Hyde personality.
‘What happened to the sane, attractive individual that you first met?’, you might ask yourself after only a couple of dates. Well, everyone is on their best behaviour during the exciting courting ritual, aren’t they? But rest assured, any facade that exists will soon slip revealing a tiresome player/ nutter/ pot-smoking lounger [fill in here] etc.. Don’t get hooked by what was. Move on.
Dating Red Flags 9. They immediately put their emotional baggage on the table.
Chances are that they have not resolved any of those issues. Stay and you will become a dial-up-date-counsellor and enjoy the delights of a predictable fall out.
Dating Red Flags 10. Their relationship with their kid is little more than a pay check.
Worse still if money isn’t even exchanging hands.
Dating Red Flags 11. You are being measured by your paycheque.
You are telling them about your job and they appear to be visibly working out your income.
Have you discovered that the person you’re dating exhibits one or more red flags? If so, what’s holding you back from taking action? It’s essential to prioritise your well-being and happiness in relationships, and that often means having the courage to walk away from situations that don’t serve you well. Don’t settle for less than you deserve. Instead, take this as an opportunity to move on from this ‘zero’ and find someone who truly aligns with your values and desires.