New Year Resolutions For Singles
The time for New Year Resolutions is soon here and with it comes many opportunities for transforming your life. Perhaps you have decided that next year is the year that you will meet that special someone and begin the relationship you have always dreamed of. However, understanding why you want this is as important as learning how to find it.
Why You Want To Be In A Relationship?
When you spend time contemplating this question, you will gain insights into yourself, as well as a deeper understanding of what being in a relationship means to you.
Understanding Your Why
Take out a notebook and brainstorm all your reasons for wanting to be in a relationship.
Develop Dating and Relationship Skills
Being knowledgable increases your confidence and will help you make the most of all opportunities.
Step Out of Your Comfort Zone
Trying new things can be scary, but if you remain in your comfort zone doing the same things the same way, you prevent change from happening.
All Is Not Lost
There is no better time than now to be single. There is so much information available about relationships and dating and so many ways to meet someone special. Dating websites, apps and singles events no longer have the social stigma it once had. Celebrate being single and fully embrace this opportunity to do things differently. Do not settle for less, otherwise you will get less.
Enlist the Support of Friends and Family
They love you and will want to help. Seeking the help of others will widen your net. After all, there are plenty of fish out there in a very big ocean. Why go“fly fishing” instead of “trawl fishing”?
Know What You Want
Becoming really clear about the kind of relationship you want will help you make better dating choices.
Know Who You Want
Write ten characteristics of the person you want to attract. Be specific or you will achieve weak results.
Be Proactive
Spend time doing things you enjoy as well as trying something different. There are lots of singles bars, clubs and events specifically for single people to get together. Book a singles event today or register to a dating website. If none of these appeal to you, explore alternatives where you could meet other like-minded singles. Are you a member of any recreational clubs? Do you play sport? Do you belong to a spiritual group? How about a film club?
Refine Your List
As you go through this process, you will develop a deeper understanding of what is most important to you. Cross off things you once thought were essential and add things you had not considered before.
Have Self-Belief
One of the most fundamental elements of achieving success is to believe that you deserve to have a loving, fulfilling and committed relationship with the man or woman of your dreams.
Pay Attention
A variety of clues will show up for you to help you on this exciting quest for your life partner. Pay close attention to messages in dreams, invitations to go somewhere, chance encounters. You never know when you will meet your dream man/women in person.
Be Ready and Available
Do not become exclusive with someone you do not consider your true soul mate. Keep dating!
Measure Your Progress
Keeping a diary to write down what you are doing and what is showing up for you is a great way to keep a check on how you are doing. If you have not met someone yet, or you are not getting past the first or second date, it is all too easy to become disheartened and give up. Your diary will help you recognise what is working and what is not.
Now that you are clear in your mind what it is that you want, it is time to list your definitive New Year Resolutions. Good luck!
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